One of the biggest decisions that you and your partner will make on your wedding day is whether or not to have a first look! The first look is when you opt to see each other before the ceremony, usually just the two of you (and your photographer) and take it all in! This is your wedding day and you finally get to see your person, and get excited for the celebrations ahead.
The moment when you see each other for the first time is such a special and intimate moment for the two of you, whether you choose to do a first look or not. There are a lot of benefits to having a first look, aside from the quiet moment together, but it’s not for everyone!
If you’re on the fence about whether or not to go for a first look on your wedding day, read on:
Why you should opt for a first look…
- More time for photos: By opting for a first look, you can take most of your wedding photos before the ceremony. This is especially helpful if you have a tight schedule or want to make sure you have a lot of quality time with your guests.
- Can help to calm your nerves: Seeing each other before the ceremony helps with a lot of those pre-ceremony jitters! A lot of couples who choose to do a first look say they feel so much more present afterwards and can better enjoy the rest of their day.
- Can be a more intimate and private moment: A first look can be a private moment just for the two of you (plus me, hi!), away from the hustle and bustle of the wedding day. Many couples even choose to read private vows or letters during this time.
Why you shouldn’t have a first look…
- May not be traditional: For some couples, the tradition of seeing each other for the first time at the ceremony is an important part of their wedding day! If this is something that you’ve always dreamed about or feel strongly about, then go with what feels right for you. Sure there’s a lot of pros to the first look but your wedding day is about you and what you’ve envisioned!
- May not be in line with certain cultural or religious beliefs: If your cultural or religious beliefs dictate that you should not see each other before the ceremony, a first look may not be an option and that’s okay!
- Sometimes couples actually prefer the anticipation and emotion of seeing each other for the first time at the ceremony!
- The majority of your wedding photos will be in mid-afternoon light if you choose to do a first look, and depending on your venue you might not have a lot of shady options! Consider how you want your photos to look and feel, when choosing the location of your first look. This goes for the walking down the aisle moment as well!
A lot of times couples are hesitant to opt for a first look because they think it will take away from their walking down the aisle moment. Honestly though? That moment is SO special, no matter what you choose to do beforehand. Seeing your partner at the other end of the aisle is going to hit you right in the feels and be a core memory for the rest of your life.
Ultimately, whether or not to have a first look is a personal decision that depends on your preferences and values. It is important to consider the pros and cons, and to choose what is best for you and your partner. Be sure to communicate with each other, and your wedding planner, to ensure that you make the decision that is right for you!