If you’re reading this, you’re probably knee-deep in wedding planning, and I bet you’re buzzing with excitement (and maybe a teeny bit of stress)! As a wedding photographer, I’ve seen countless couples tie the knot, and one of the most magical moments is always the first look. It’s that special moment when you see your partner for the first time on your wedding day, and it’s pure magic!

But guess what? There’s no one right way to do it. So, let’s dive into 5 different ways to do a first look, so you can choose what feels right to you!

1. The Traditional First Look aka Down the Aisle

Alright, let’s start with the classic. The Traditional way of seeing your new spouse for the first time is right down the aisle. Now this can either be at the ceremony (the traditional way) OR some couples want that aisle moment but still want the benefits of time the “first look” gives. A great way to have your cake and eat it too, is to do your first look in your ceremony space!

why it’s awesome:

• Keep the tradition: If you’ve always dreamed of that aisle moment, this is the perfect solution!
• Sentimental Value: This is the place where you’ll exchange your vows, so starting your wedding journey here can make the space even more meaningful.
• Comfort and Familiarity: Getting a few moments in your ceremony space before the guests arrive can help you feel more comfortable and grounded.

2. The “new” First Look

This is the moment where you, the bride or groom, walk up to your partner who has their back turned, tap them on the shoulder, and they turn around to see you in all your wedding day glory! It’s private, it’s intimate, and it’s all about the two of you (and I’m there to capture it!). Another alternative to this is to stop a few feet away and just let your significant other know they can turn around!

why it’s awesome:

• Intimacy: This is your moment, away from the hustle and bustle of the day.
• Emotion: The raw emotion captured in these moments is unbeatable.
• Photos: These are the most “set up” of the options, so the angles and photographer side of things will be perfect!

3. The Casual Walk-In

Imagine casually walking into a beautiful space and finding your partner there, waiting for you. It’s relaxed, it’s natural, and it’s perfect for couples who want a laid-back first look without too much fuss. Great location ideas for this would be opening a door, walking into a clearing in the trees, or coming outside of the venue or house to find your partner waiting!

why it’s awesome:

• Natural Feel: There’s something beautifully organic about just walking in and seeing each other.
• Relaxed Atmosphere: It sets a calm and serene tone for the rest of the day.
• Spontaneity: The unrehearsed nature of this first look can lead to genuine and heartfelt reactions.

4. The First Look with Your Wedding Party

If you’re all about sharing the joy with your closest friends and family, why not involve them in your first look? Have your wedding party be there to witness the moment, adding an extra layer of excitement and celebration.

why it’s awesome:

• Shared Joy: Your loved ones get to witness and share in your happiness.
• Support System: Having your best friends and family around can make the moment even more special.
• Epic Photos: Group reactions can be priceless and add another dimension to your wedding album.

5. The Back-to-Back First Look

For those who want to feel close beforehand without the performance of the “tap on the shoulder”, the back-to-back first look is perfect. You stand back-to-back, hold hands, talk, or share a moment before turning around (or not, your choice!). Another alternative to this is to have your eyes closed and just open them at the same time!

why it’s awesome:

• Connection: You get to feel each other’s presence and share a moment of calm before the ceremony.
• Anticipation: It builds up the anticipation for seeing each other at the ceremony.
• Versatility: You can choose to turn around for the reveal or keep it for the aisle.

You can also opt to do this as an alternative to a first look. By holding hands back to back (or around a corner so you can’t see each other) and just chatting with each other you can re-connect and take any pre-ceremony jitters off without forgoing your aisle moment!

Tips for your first look:

• Location, Location, Location: Choose a spot that’s meaningful or simply beautiful – a quiet garden, a secluded hallway, or even a spot with a breathtaking view.
• Timing: Schedule it with enough time before the ceremony to avoid feeling rushed but not so early that the excitement wears off.
• Choose a Beautiful Spot: Whether it’s a picturesque garden, a quiet room, or a scenic outdoor location, pick a spot that feels right for you.
• Timing: Make sure you have enough time to truly enjoy the moment without feeling rushed.
• Stay Present: Focus on each other and soak in the moment. This is your time.
• Personalize: Use this moment to exchange vows, pray, or simply talk about your feelings.

Embrace What Feels Right for You

Ultimately, your first look should be a reflection of your personalities and your love story. It’s your day, and it should be exactly what you want it to be. If one of these ideas jumps out at you, go for it! If you have a completely different idea, embrace it wholeheartedly. The key is to stay true to yourselves and enjoy every moment.

Remember, this is one of the most special days of your life. Whether you opt for the traditional first look, the playful blindfold, the casual walk-in, the celebratory wedding party reveal, or the intimate back-to-back moment, what matters most is that it feels right for you.

As a wedding photographer, I can assure you that whatever you choose, it will be perfect. The emotions, the love, and the joy will shine through in every photo. So, take a deep breath, trust your instincts, and get ready for one of the most unforgettable moments of your wedding day.

Here’s to love, laughter, and a first look that’s as unique as your love story! Cheers! 🥂